Nurturing yourself is an absolute necessity to keep yourself healthy in body, mind and spirit. But, giving to others that are less fortunate can help you heal in ways you won’t achieve anywhere else.
In 1999 renowned writer, Stephen King was hit by a vehicle as he walked along side the road close to where he lived. The driver of a van said to be preoccupied with his dog swerved off the road hitting King, throwing him over the van’s windshield and into the ditch. Accounts were that he just missed hitting a rocky ledge. King was hospitalized with multiple fractures to his leg and hip, a collapsed lung, broken ribs, and a scalp laceration.
When asked what King was thinking when told he could have died, his answer was how grateful he was.
I can understand where King’s thoughts would go to appreciation from the sheer pleasure of having lived. But, wouldn’t human nature kick in somewhere making your thoughts move to anger and resentment towards the man that hit you? If this happened to me, I’d venture to say I’d be very upset that all of this occurred by someone’s carelessness.
Instead King said, “It was God’s grace that he, (the driver) isn’t responsible for my death.” King clearly demonstrated forgiveness. Giving a gift to the man that hit him.
I know first hand how easily it is to get stuck in what’s wrong in life. I’ve lived through many incidences caused by other people’s actions, that, as a result, have harmed me in some way. Twice in my life I was in car accidents. Both times I suffered multiple injuries to my back and neck. Both times it was evident the drivers were not paying attention. Both times I had a hard time getting past knowing the accident could have been avoided had the person been paying attention.
Although I did not handle my situations as well as King, I can now see where his viewpoint is necessary.
When life gets you down the best thing to do is to give of yourself offering generosity, instead of keeping your thoughts directed at what’s wrong.
Human nature has taught us to look at the erroneous situations that occur. Clearly this is evident with news broadcasts each day.
When you get caught up looking at what’s wrong, there is no movement out of the hurt and pain. Healing cannot occur. Instead, you stay focused on what’s happened never quite making a full recovery. You stay firmly planted in the “poor me pity mode.”
Have you been in a situation that has caused you harm in some way? You might be a victim of a car accident as I was. Or possibly your conflict went in a totally different direction. Perhaps you thought your relationship was solid and out of the blue your partner announces he is leaving you. Or you might be financially strapped wondering how you’re going to pay your bills. Or even worse, you could be the recipient in an abusive situation.
Where would your thoughts be?
Would you place blame and anger towards your husband for leaving you?
Maybe you might feel trapped. Angry at yourself or others involved.
Or might you see that people fall in and out of love all the time?
Would you be able to make a small shift in your thinking to help your situation?
Would you be able to forgive anyone involved?
The thought of someone not loving you can kill a person.
Living with the anguish of not having any money is overwhelming.
And even worse, living as if you need to walk on glass for fear of making someone angry enough to abuse you can be debilitating.
Accomplishing day to day activities, even getting out of bed may seem impossible.
People have been known to suffer endlessly. They tend to deny, avoid, and distort the problems they confront and dwell on what has happened. Many never recover.
One of the biggest obstacles in life is to learn to accept people for who they are. Once we do, we are set free. No longer is there a power held over you. You now have the strength to move on.
Gratitude is an attitude, but it is much more. It makes us feel better even in the worst of times. It is a coping response.
Research shows getting out of your head and giving back to someone less fortunate can lead to your healing.
Forgiveness is a god given gift. Not just for the other person, but even more for yourself. When you find forgiveness, you are more able to let go of hurt and pain.
Are you struggling with something?
Are you ready to move on and release any pain you might be suffering?
Then ask yourself what you are grateful for? And then GET GIVING!
There is one major concept I’ve learned on my journey that really made a huge difference, and that is, if you’re willing to look there is always someone that has it much worse than you do.
By blending forgiveness, gratitude and doing something good for someone else the outcome is a win-win for everyone.
Your pain can heal.
The person you forgive receives a gift. And so do you.
And when you do goodwill for someone it helps them, and it just feels wonderful.
So when is it less about you and more about them??? When you hurt, can’t forgive, and are not able to find gratitude for anything in this world.
May you be blessed with love in your heart, forgiveness in your thoughts, and the gratitude of knowing this is a wonderful world filled with great people no matter the trial you find yourself in.